9/17/18, Hard Day, Hard Week
Hi Everyone,
I hope you’ve had a good week, even a great week, as the Fall gets off to a busy start. For those of you with children, they’re all back in school by now, which keeps parents busier than ever, until the new routine is established, and things settle down. And with after school activities, and sports teams, kids keep us running. Mine are all working now, and I miss those school days (which will sound crazy to you if you’re dashing all over the place with your kids, and wish they’d hurry up and grow up. Beware of what you wish for!!! They grow up all too soon!!). I still have one child living at home, and am grateful that I do!!! Every time she leaves her laundry stacked up in the front hall, or borrows something and forgets to return it, or loses something, or scrambles my schedule, or uses enough towels to stock a hotel, I remind myself of how lucky I am to still have her at home!! Any time I spend with her is precious.
I had a busy, mostly fun week last week, doing errands, catching up, seeing friends for lunch and dinner. I love having friends in for dinner after the summer, to catch up with how everyone’s summer was. I worked, and finished an outline I love, for a future book, and can’t wait to get to work on it. And I’ll see a few friends this week too, and visit two of my daughters, and see 2 more of my kids by the end of the week. Seeing my children will be the best part of the week. And I have a bunch of real life stuff to do too. A visit from the plumber to solve a (lack of) hot water problem, a trip to the vet to check the dog who was sick this summer (Blue, with a disk problem), put away summer clothes, call to complain about the kitchen chairs I ordered 5 months ago and haven’t received yet. Ordinary real life housewifely stuff, which I enjoy. I got a new TV for my bedroom, after 14 years, which is fun. I like the rhythm and routine of ordinary life, I find it comforting and relaxing to get small things done. Last week had its serious moments too, I went to the memorial service for a dear friend, and unfortunately will go the memorial service of a beloved brother in law this week. The friend was 91, a famous fashion designer (Hubert de Givenchy, an extraordinary really lovely man). My brother in law was in his late 80s, and like a real big brother to me since I was 16. Both men led good, full, long productive lives. I will miss them both, but it is in the order of things for people to leave, and both lived well lived complete lives to a great age, which makes their leaving easier to accept.
But all in all, I know this will be a hard week for me. However well I fill the time, whatever I do, there is a date that I cannot escape every year, the anniversary of my son Nick’s death, by suicide at 19. He was greatly, great loved, and still is, and I miss him always. Talented (in writing and music), brilliant, funny, loving, compassionate, he was a wonderful boy, suffered from bi polar disease all his life (I first noticed it before he was 2, and knew it for sure by the time he was 4 years old). We did everything we could to help him, but he finally just couldn’t live with the pain anymore. He led a remarkably full life in his short time, he already had a successful career in music (writing lyrics and music, and lead singer in a successful band). And even after his death, his life has been a blessing to many people. We established two foundations in his honor, to help mentally ill people, and the homeless. Thousands of people have been helped in his name. There is a blessing in even the hardest events in our lives.
Anniversary dates are always something of a mystery to me. The person we loved, and still love, is just as gone the day or the week or month before and after the anniversary. But there is a power to the anniversary date that is like the sound of a gong that reverberates through you, shattering the silence and any sense of peace. It’s as though your body knows what day it is as well as your heart. Life stops for me on that day, as I try to remember him without remembering how terrible that day was. Birthdays are easier because there are happy memories of that day. There are no happy memories of the day someone you love dies, and it pierces your heart like a spear. The memory of that stops you in your tracks. I try to keep it as gentle as possible, but there is no easy way. This will be the first year that I won’t be with some of my children on that date, but I will see them the next day. There is something particularly terrible about losing a child, at any age, because it is not in the correct order of life, and a child is part of you from the moment they are born until you die, and they take with them a part of you that belonged to them. So it will be a hard day. It always is. Some years are harder than others, and some years are a little better, and gentler. You never really escape it, but some years whatever you do to soothe the pain seems to work, distraction, seeing friends, whatever you do, and you get through it. Other years you barely crawl through it. The pain begins to dim the next day and gets back to something you can live with, but you hit a wall on those days, time stops, and you are catapulted into the past to a day you wish had never happened. In a way, the agony of that day doesn’t make sense, because they are just as gone before and after the day, and you learn to live with it…..but the actual anniversary date is particularly tough. I dread it, but one gets through it. It comes at you like a heat seeking missile, headed straight for your heart.
He was an incredibly sweet boy with a huge heart. Forever missed, forever loved, for the rest of time.
Have a great week!!! I hope it is a gentle week for you, with lots of happy moments in it.
all my love, Danielle
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what if to segment a particular day for separate events and try to find five easy and five hard
Danielle,
“I got a new TV for my bedroom, after 14 years, which is fun”… hahaa!!! That is so funny…oh my ( that is home finance course 101)!!!
Well now if you keep your cell phone for 14 years new generation would call you anthropologist or something like that… hihihi!well all is good…
Ooohh my… Count Hubert James Marcel Taffin de Givenchy was the French couturier who found the house of Givenchy in the post second war area in 1952.He was the couturier of Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy Onassis , Kelly Grace( Princess of Monaco when she married Prince Rainier III) and Audrey Hepturn… He is the creator of the adorable and elegant little black dress wore by Audrey Hepburn in ” Breakfast at Tiffany’s”…
He was a genuine artist! RIP
Sorry for the loss of Nick. RIP Nick.
Nick is still alive by helping millions of people through “Nick Traina Foundation “. Who really knows how many suicide case are avoid by Nick’s inspirational story??? …
Sincerely,
Camille
“He was an incredibly sweet boy with a huge heart. Forever missed, forever loved, for the rest of time.”
Amen, Danielle.
You will always be connected to Nick through love.
Sending you thoughts of peace and love.
Thank you for all the good you are doing and have done.
You keep HOPE burning bright.
Keep shining.
Truth, Wisdom, Love, and Sincerity, to ALL mankind.
Rob Scott
ABQ, NM
“He was an incredibly sweet boy with a huge heart. Forever missed, forever loved, for the rest of time.”
Amen, Danielle.
You will always be connected to Nick through love.
Sending you thoughts of peace and love.
Thank you for all the good you are doing and have done.
You keep HOPE burning bright.
Keep shining.
Truth, Wisdom, Love, and Sincerity, to ALL mankind.
Rob Scott
ABQ, NM
Dear DS,
I don’t have a philosophical approach to write this comment. Just a whole hearted hope it brings you the slightest of comfort on this tragic anniversary. I have followed your son, Nick, from back in the days of ‘Link 80’. He was an extraordinary human in the short time he graced this world. I have found myself in similar struggles that Nick suffered. I want you to know that because of the influence of his story my story has continued. I continue to fight everyday to live my best life. He will remain a ‘Bright Light’ in my mind forever. Thank you for your courage in sharing the experience with me in my life. I am not sure what happens after death but I know those who suffer on earth fly the highest among the angels.
All the best during this difficult day and always!
Im so sorry but the only list i found for all your books is 118 im really in need of a list of all your books in order so i can obtain any hard backs that might be missing i would hate to miss what you have written an i only buy hardback x
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